The 7 Faces of Anger - Find Out Which One Is Yours

     Do you often lose your temper? Do you often say things that later you regret because of anger? Do others consider you a volatile person, afraid to be around you, not knowing why or when you will suddenly erupt? Do you feel entitled to having these angry reactions, do you feel that others "make" you angry? Do you sometimes find that anger gives you power over others? Do you sometimes feel that if you don't do something like breaking an object, or slamming a door, you are going to burst? Have you ever felt weak and incapable of controlling your anger? Have you become violent towards another person because of anger? Have you damaged a person's property because of anger? If your answer is yes to just a couple of the above, then, you probably have some anger issues that you need to resolve.

      What is anger? Is it ok? Yes, anger is ok. It is one of our basic reactions and feelings and a natural part of our lives. It is an emotional signal of displeasure with an event or behavior we have encountered. One of our basic skills in life is how to feel our anger, how to manage our anger, and how to express our anger appropriately. However, anger, being a reaction to some sort of conflict between our desires and the response of the environment, should not be a permanent attribute of our personality, but rather a temporary feeling which subsides as soon as the conflict is resolved.

What are the many faces of anger?

Constant Irritability. Have you ever met a person who is constantly angry about something? There are some people who have integrated anger into their personality style as a permanent trait. They are always angry about everything. They get easily frustrated over small things, get annoyed at events that others simply ignore, and carry their anger wherever they go. No matter what the occasion, they will find something to be dissatisfied with, something they will find very annoying. It seems as if they are intentionally focusing on what can make them mad, as an excuse to let their anger out. Sometimes, such people discover that with their anger they gain control and power over others, and may use their anger deliberately as a manipulative technique. Intimidators, bullies may fall in this category.

Narcissistic Rage. There is anger resulting from "narcissistic injury" or a perceived attack on self-esteem and feelings of insult and shame. People with unhealthy self-esteem, who feel unworthy or unloved and carry a lot of shame within them, tend to feel inordinate shame at small insignificant comments made by others, are overly touchy when criticized, ignored, or neglected and may erupt in quite violent anger, often termed "narcissistic rage". This type of anger turned against the person who has caused the insult or the shaming experience is a way the "insulted" person has found to hit back, get revenge, or release these very intense feelings.

Paranoid Anger. Another variant of narcissistic anger is paranoid anger, often as an extension of the former. In narcissistic anger what is threatened and being responded to is a perceived threat to shaky self-esteem. In paranoid anger the perceived threat is against the person's basic security or safety. Everyone is out to get such a person, take his/her job, do him/her an injustice, fool and deceive him/her etc. This anger stems from deep feelings of insecurity and lack of trust and is expressed with self-entitlement as a means of protection against the evilness of others. Often, this type of anger takes the form of "moral indignation" - accusing others of being "wrong" or "bad" or "immoral" giving the angry person a false feeling of superiority, while covering underlying feelings of weakness, vulnerability, insecurity, or envy.

Explosive Anger. The most dangerous type of anger is sudden, explosive anger, which occurs when the individual totally loses control of himself. The causes for this type of anger may be any of the ones mentioned above, and the intensity of the anger reaction can be attributed to faulty impulse control, which may be evident in other forms of extreme impulsivity in that person's life. People suffering from such anger may harm others or themselves as a way to rid themselves of these very powerful feelings and gain relief.

Repressed Anger.  On the other hand, there are people who are afraid of anger. Perhaps, in their childhood they were taught that it was not appropriate to express anger, or they were so afraid of other people's anger that they decided that anger was "bad". Some people are so afraid of anger that not only do they not express it, but cover it up with various defenses so that they do not feel their anger anymore. Such people's main concern is to keep the peace at all costs, not rock the boat, not gain the displeasure of another person, not make things even worse, not lose acceptance or love. Anger, theirs or other people's, is just too upsetting, it disturbs their sense of security and safety and such people tend to shrink back from it and systematically avoid it. Frequently, depression or psychosomatic symptoms may result from this constant repression of anger.

Passive-Aggressive Anger. Another type of not expressed anger is called passive-aggressive anger. If the people in the previous category get tumors, people in this category can "cause" tumors to others, by their obstinate uncooperativeness. Frustrating others is their specialty and their cup of tea. Late for appointments, dates, "forgetful" of things, professional procrastinators, and all of that under a meak and mild countenance and a guileless smile. In contrast to repressed anger, which is not consciously felt by the individual, passive-aggressive anger is consciously felt and consciously expressed in this indirect and masked style as a way of revenge or control of others.

Healthy Anger. Finally, there is "healthy" anger. What are the characteristics of healthy anger?

•    Healthy anger is consciously felt - not repressed or avoided.

•     Healthy anger is filtered through our reasoning faculties and modulated.

•     Healthy anger is verbally expressed in a civilized and controlled manner and its aim is not  to  injure, attack, insult or otherwise harm the anger-provoking person, but resolve the anger-provoking situation.

•     Healthy anger is quickly released once the conflict is over and not held onto as resentment or hard feelings.

So, now that you know, which is your face of anger? Would you be willing to let go of your unhealthy anger style and adopt a healthier, more constructive and effective style?

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Adult Anger Management

      Adult anger management classes and techniques have picked up in popularity over the course of the past few years. As an adult, it is quite likely that you have experienced some form of anger in your lifetime. Believe it or not, this is actually considered to be quite normal. It is a healthy emotion that is expressed by humans. Unfortunately, it is quite easy to allow our anger to get out of control. When this occurs, many problems may arise. With adult anger management, you can learn to recognize physical and emotional signs that your anger is getting out of control, and learn healthy, nonviolent approaches to control the situation. Anger management is more less an equipping of coping mechanisms that you can use so that this emotion does not control you, others, and your life as a whole.

Who Attends Anger Management?

       Anyone may attend anger management classes if they feel as if they have a problem coping with their emotions. Many individuals who have been convicted of certain violent crimes may be instructed by a judge to attend these types of classes. In many cases, parents may be informed that they should attend courses that teach them coping mechanisms on dealing with emotions that they have. While it is true that many individuals are referred to adult anger management classes, there are still a large number of individuals that attend because of the fact that they recognize that they have a problem and simply want to reach out for help.

The Impact of Anger

      Both medical and mental health professionals agree that anger is a core emotion that is experienced by all people at one point or another in their lives. Early in childhood, we learn to express our frustration and dissatisfaction through the means of anger. Many of us will mimic the behavior of the adults around us as children, and some of us will create our own standard of expressing this emotion as we experience it firsthand. Unfortunately, we are often taught that anger is inappropriate and unadvised - though there can be some positive things that emerge from the anger that we experience.

      As an individual grows to believe that the emotions that they are experiencing when they become angry are inappropriate, they have the potential to lock down these feelings inside of them. As time progresses, this can lead to negative behaviors and consequences. Most of the time, this ends up coming out in an inappropriate fit of rage, violence, in a way that is harmful towards others, and even in ways that are harmful to one's self. The purpose and intent of adult anger management classes are to provide individuals with coping mechanisms for their anger. This type of course will provide one with positive strategies for the emotions that they are experiencing as they deal with anger in their personal lives.

What Topics Are Common To Adult Anger Management?

There are a number of topics that are common to adult anger management classes. The following details some examples of what you may learn in this type of educational environment:

1. The basic psychology behind anger.

2. Physiological aspects of anger.

3. Anger styles - how they are learned, how they are expressed, and how they can be changed.

4. How to recognize anger symptoms.

5. Strategies for coping with anger.

Conclusion

If you or someone that you love suffers from irrational thoughts, behaviors, and feelings as a direct result of anger, it may be time to reach out and seek assistance. One of the best ways that you can do this is by considering classes that specialize in adult anger management.

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Anger Difficulties

      Uncontrollable anger is not a new issue. Anger by it self is totally regular, but it all depends on how you deal with it.. Unfortunately some of us have a great bit of trouble doing exactly that. Anger by itself isn't a difficulty only when it can't be controlled. The state in which you find yourself when not controlling anger can bring about many bad things.

     Others are also in danger when you lose control over your anger. I bet you have someone in your household or someone you know who acts very pretty near individuals he/she knows, but to someone foreign he/she has a very negative approach. Even when you don't know such a person you might have been a victim of one. Could you remember a day where you walked in a park and a random person had absolutely nothing better to try and do, but begin a fight? - Specifically.

      Most of us have some method to release our anger, some just do it differently than others. I will be even as brave as to say that they do it in a wrong way. For people with such dilemmas anger management classes have been established. They coach you on how to control your emotions and keep these things within your command. Lately such training have been dominating the internet market. Anger programs are available for everyone and as a result of it someday we might live in a society free of uncontrollable anger - crime, violence, family abuse, bullying, etc.

      Even if it really is all a positive thinking. Living in a planet without anger would be ad dream come true, There is no other way, but to get started on the alteration from ourselves. Let's not be hypocrites we all get angry from time to time, but let's make an effort to release those feelings in a more beneficial way. Regardless of whether you have heard this thousands of times - write a journal, do sports activities, start calming more. By holding that pen and writing down your inner feelings you can alter your mood. That doing a work out for 10 min every two days can bring peace into your life. All of these approaches have been shown to work). Doing those things will lower your stress to minimum and it does not take more than half an hour a day. The entire world would be very different, if only we spent the time every day to accomplish these simple exercises.


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What is Anger?

     Anger is an emotional response when faced with an obstruction in reaching our target. We face with such examples every day when we do not get what we want and get frustrated and angry at the same time. Different psychologists, psychiatrists and other health specialists are working on many psychological problems like stress, depression and other conduct problems. They try to help us and layman peoples. Layman needs to understand these everyday conflicting situations and manage those effectively.

     Anger is humans most often expressed emotion, leading to negative emotions, fear and insecurity. Common problem of our society is frustrations, threats, disappointments generating anger in our mind. Emotions appear early in our lives and has significant impact on our reactions. We must learn to control those emotions, especially growing children must learn to adapt and modify their emotion expression according to environment.

     Anger evolves in everyday life situation of laymen, and how they undergone, convey, and develop health problems. Most of the everyday conflicts like parent-child aggression, legal discard, bad grades in school, school maltreatment, teacher-child violence, underachieved goals, and personal problems like stress, depression, aggression, road rage sources to one common problem "Anger". Therefore, a layman is baffled with anger from different routes.

     It is important to understand how anger develops in everyday life situations and how to treat them. You can manage anger exploit with anger assessment tools. What are the main effects that happen during the anger, how long will it last, why does it happen, what is happening with your body when anger occurs, and how does it advance in physiological problems (common problems like stroke, cancer, diabetes, arthritis, disease, obesity, hypertension), psychological problems (problems like stress, depression, eating disorders, body unhappiness, law conflict, alcohol and drug misuse). Scientists have shown that anger and its common problems, hostility and aggression, collectively called the AHA-Syndrome have been related to an increased risk of cardiovascular diseases.

     Different types of personalities are missing skills to confront with problem solving, bad memories, concern, depression, what will happen etc. Those negative feelings will lower our ability to control ourselves. All those negative emotions are called internal factors.

    What we call external factors is improper parental practices, traffic jams, waiting lines, heavy noises, media and advertisements, social status, social stress etc. We are constantly put to the test with our fast growing, technologically modern live style and competitive companies. Positive feelings have lost their meanings. Our humanity is threatened by terrorist attacks and now we feel insecure all the time. Although we are more afraid of governments than terrorist activities these days. Many of those negative emotions are transforming to one emotion Anger.

     Anger is nothing new to school children, where they are faced day by day. Children in school carry guns in their school bags. Massacres by those students is reported by news media around the world. Reports stated that girls can be as angry as boys. They are known to kick back, push, slap, bite and hit if faced by fear, especially if confronted by jealousy.

    That is why managing your anger is crucial at every stage of life.


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